So, You’re Engaged! Now What? Let’s Talk First Steps (Beyond the Selfies!)

First of all, congratulations! You’re engaged—cue the happy tears, champagne, and yes, that sparkle everyone suddenly wants to see up close. It’s an exciting, surreal, and maybe slightly overwhelming time. You’re about to plan a celebration of love that brings together your closest people for a day that’ll live forever in memories, stories… and photographs!

But before you dive into Pinterest boards or venue tours, take a breath. Literally. Pause and give yourselves time to celebrate being engaged. Whether it’s a week or just a weekend, enjoy this moment before shifting into planning mode.

When you’re ready to start, here’s one of the best ways to ease into it—a couple’s questionnaire. Think of it like a fun heart-to-heart that sets the tone for your planning journey. It helps you get on the same page about what really matters to each of you.

Here’s how to approach it: each of you can answer these questions on your own first, then come together and share your answers. Use it as a chance to learn what you love, what you don’t, and what truly lights you up when it comes to your big day.

Your Pre-Planning Chat Guide:

1. What weddings have you been to that you absolutely loved—and why?

Maybe it was an intimate backyard wedding where everything felt relaxed and full of joy. Or a lavish ballroom celebration with epic music and speeches. Write down specific memories—was it the energy, the décor, the food?

2. What stood out at those weddings?

Was it a live jazz band? A sunset ceremony? A taco truck at midnight? These details can hint at the vibe you want for your day.

3. What didn’t work for you?

No shade here—it’s just helpful! Maybe a wedding you went to felt too formal, too rushed, or too long. This helps you avoid those pitfalls.

4. What are your top 3 non-negotiables?

These are your must-haves. For example: “We want to get married outdoors,” or “We must have Persian food,” or “Photography is a priority because we want real, meaningful memories captured.”

5. What traditions matter to you—and which ones don’t?

Want to include a family recipe, a dance with your grandma, or a special poem? Make a list. At the same time, let go of what doesn’t feel right to you—like a bouquet toss or cake-cutting if it doesn’t spark joy.

6. What’s something (or someone) you can’t imagine the day without?

It could be your dog, a childhood friend, or even the energy of a live dance floor. These answers shape your day around meaning.

7. What does a wedding mean to you?

Is it about family? A spiritual union? A once-in-a-lifetime party? Or a mix of all of the above?

Photographer’s Tip: These answers are gold—not just for planning, but for me as your photographer. They help me understand what moments matter most to you, so I can be ready for those in-between glances, meaningful traditions, and spontaneous laughs.

So don’t rush this part. Make a coffee date, pour some wine, and dream together. You’ll come out not only with a clearer idea of your wedding—but maybe even feeling a little closer, too.

Let me know if you’d like this styled differently or want to add a personal note at the end!